Monday, April 7, 2008
Stages in Relationship
Walking down the aisle is not as easy as it seemed to be. The whole journey of a relationship is arduous yet brings back a smile with those memories. After going pass a number of milestone, I pretty much categorize the whole journey of a relationship into 4 stages...1) RomanceWhat can one expect out of a relationship that is just beginning to sprout? Definitely is romance, romance and more romance! The guy who finally got the girl of his dreams, after months of hardwork and effort in the courtship, he will go all out in pleasing the girl. On the other hand, the girl, is also certainly so much in love with him, which is why she accepted him in the first place.At this stage, not much in depth discussions of their background and differences, they would also possibly have yet to discover them. Even if they have, the differences which they have are often overlooked and not discussed in details. All blinded by their hopes and plans they have of their possible future together.2) UncertaintyAfter knowing this person for months, they start to realise each other's flaws and weaknesses. They start to experience conflicts and differences which they have never realize all this while. Some reflections and internal conflicts will be going through the mind. Considerations of whether is it worthwhile to go on with the relationship, whether is this really the ONE and how not to let these obstacles get into the way of the progress of the relationship are done. It is a critical stage where often a times separation ends up, yet necessary for couples that are able to passed this stage to prove their commitment towards each other and their readiness to progress into the next stage of their relationship.3) StabilityAfter all the struggles and ironing out of the differences, this relationship definitely would have grown stronger and more stable. The couple now feel more secure in concentrating on each of their individual projects. Stable it might seem to be, there is still a danger in neglecting the other half. They may feel to have drifted apart, with less sparks and passion as before. They may also feel that they are no longer so much in love with each other anymore. Being "bored" in this relationship, they may be tempted to seek new love interest to fulfill their crave for excitement.4) CommitmentAfter all this stages, the couple should be more or less prepared to commit to each other. They have come to know the person inside out and yet they still choose to be with each other. The decision to stick with this person for good or for bad is not an easy one. It just marks the start of their lifelong commitment towards each other in forming their own family nucleus and of course, ultimately to see themselves as an entity out of this entire population in the world...Labels: livin, love, post, relationship, romance, stability, stages, together, uncertainty
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Walking down the aisle is not as easy as it seemed to be. The whole journey of a relationship is arduous yet brings back a smile with those memories. After going pass a number of milestone, I pretty much categorize the whole journey of a relationship into 4 stages...
